Who Is Demi Lovato Dating? Her Boyfriends & Relationship History
Cyrus told PEOPLE that their touring schedules put a kibosh on the short-lived liaison, adding, “We gave it a shot and that’s all you can do. Every time I hung out with that girl or talked on the phone with her, it was amazing. She’s someone I can totally relate to. But she is a lot younger than me. When someone is that much younger, you’re looking for different things in relationships. Maybe when she’s older and we’ve both matured, we’ll be looking for the same thing and it can work out.”
Demi Lovato and Joe Jonas dated in 2009 through 2010 while filming and promoting Camp Rock 2
Lovato starred alongside the Jonas Brothers in Camp Rock and Camp Rock 2. While filming the sequel, she fell hard for Joe Jonas, describing him as her “best friend” and a “complete gentleman.” The couple went public…but it wouldn’t last. After a only a month or so together, Jonas told Us Weekly, “Demi and I knew going into our romantic relationship that it may not be an easy one. I realize over the time we have shared together that I feel I care more about our friendship right now. It was my choice to break up, but I love her as a friend. She’s been there for me when I needed her. I will continue to be her friend and be there for her.”
While reviewing footage from Camp Rock and its sequel in 2017, Lovato revealed she and Jonas had their first kiss on camera and that she had a crush on him since they’d first met, even though they only ended up dating for about a month or two.
Though quite brief, Lovato’s relationship with Jonas would be one that affected them both deeply and publicly. Shortly after their split (which went down in 2010 during a tour together), she entered rehab for substance abuse, bipolar disorder, self-harm and bulimia. Jonas later wrote of the experience in Vulture, “I really got to know her and got to see the ins and outs of what she was struggling with, like drug abuse. I felt like I needed to take care of her, but at the same time I was living a lie, because I wasn’t happy but felt like I had to stay in it for her, because she needed help. I couldn’t express any of that, of course, because I had a brand to protect.”
Demi Lovato and Wilmer Valderrama were together for six years
In late 2010, Lovato began dating Wilmer Valderrama, who was 30 at the time. She insisted in her 2017 documentary, Demi Lovato: Simply Complicated, that though they met when she was 17, at Valderrama’s urging, they didn’t begin dating until she was no longer a minor. Lovato said in the film that when she met Valderrama while filming a public service announcement at his home, she fell in love at first sight. “I was like, ‘I love this man and I have to have him,’” she recalled, “but I was only 17 and so, he was like, ‘Get away from me.’”
Lovato and Valderrama dated publicly off and on for six years. Lovato credited the NCIS star with saving her life and even fielded engagement talk before calling it quits in June 2016.
She explained in Simply Complicated, “[The breakup] had nothing to do with falling out of love. We decided together that we’re just probably better as friends. I think my heart’s always with Wilmer. I think it was with Wilmer. I think that it is with Wilmer, and I think that it will be because you don’t share six years with somebody and not give them a piece of your heart and vice versa. I’m pretty sure that I’m not gonna meet anybody that compares to him.”
Lovato also noted, “The sparks never faded, but there are issues that I haven’t conquered yet that I know I won’t conquer if I’m relying on somebody else to take care of the loneliness.”
The singer told Glamour in November 2016 that the split was something that needed to happen in order for her to continue to grow and mature.
“I think it’s healthy to be able to start over with someone else. Being sick was always a part of my relationship with him; I always had something wrong with me. I needed to let go of that,” she said. “It was hard to depart from somebody who saw everything, but it may be nice to start fresh with somebody. Because that person I was when I was a lot younger is not who I am today.”
Valderrama and Lovato remained close friends post-split, and the That ’70s Show actor supported her after her 2018 overdose. In April 2020, Lovato revealed to Harper’s Bazaar that while she and Valderrama aren’t close anymore, she wished him well on his engagement to model Amanda Pacheco, with whom he welcomed a daughter in February 2021.
“I’m really happy for him and I wish him nothing but the best, but we’re not in each other’s lives [and] haven’t spoken in a long time,” she said. “But I think I needed that, because I needed to learn to be okay on my own.”
A newly single Demi Lovato played the field with three athletes 2016
In July 2016, Lovato was reported to have gone on some dinner dates with NFL star Odell Beckham Jr.. Lovato’s first semi-public romance after her breakup from Valderrama was with UFC fighter Luke Rockhold. The pair were photographed holding hands at Madison Square Garden while watching a UFC match, but PEOPLE reported at the time that they weren’t exclusive.
Lovato also was rumored to have hooked up with another MMA fighter, Guilherme “Bomba” Vasconcelos, that July and again after ending things with Rockhold in late 2016. She admitted on The Ellen DeGeneres Show that Vasconcelos was “so cute” and that she was very happy, but their flame burned out by May 2017.
Demi Lovato was spotted holding hands with Lauren Abedini in 2017
Lovato and DJ-producer Lauren Abedini were spotted holding hands in Disneyland in September 2017. Neither has ever commented on the nature of their relationship, but Lovato has been open about her sexual fluidity: One listen to “Cool for the Summer” makes that clear.
If not, she will explain it anyway. She told InStyle in March 2018 that her sexuality is “very fluid,” explaining, “I think love is love. You can find it in any gender. I like the freedom of being able to flirt with whoever I want.” Three years later, Lovato would reveal that cis men really aren’t her type (at least not anymore).
Demi Lovato dated Henry Levy from late 2018 to March 2019
Lovato suffered a near-fatal overdose in July 2018. Once out of the hospital and treatment, her first known romance was with clothing designer Henry Levy, with the pair going public that December in an Instagram Story.
The relationship lasted four months, and Lovato reportedly sought more treatment just before the breakup was announced.
Demi Lovato briefly dated Bachelorette contestant Mike Johnson in 2019
Lovato is a loyal member of Bachelor Nation. In late summer 2019, she went on a few dates with Mike Johnson, and he was more than happy to speak about their connection publicly.
The Bachelorette alum revealed on Ben Higgins and Ashley Iaconetti‘s Almost Famous podcast that September, “We’ve gone on more than one date. I like her tattoos. We both have a lot of tattoos and she kisses really well.” Ironically, he added, “To be honest, I personally don’t like [dating in the spotlight]. I am very private with my relationships, straight up. But she’s in this light and that’s why I said she’s so humble and I think the world of her, because she has been able to have to deal with this crap. I can’t even imagine from her perspective. I’m a gentleman. I’m not going to kiss and tell.”